I generally put together a list of music for the prelude and postlude of a wedding, but couples generally like to pick their own music for the processional, unity ceremony, and recessional. Below are the top 5 most requested songs for the start of this year!
5.) I Will Follow You Into the Dark
This song has mostly been chosen for recessionals, but I have one wedding next month where we’ll be playing it for the processional, so it works for both! This has been a popular pick for both this year and 2024.
4.) Mendelssohn’s Wedding March
When I first started playing weddings, it seemed like everyone wanted pop songs played for their recessional. This year, I’ve seen a huge rise in classical requests like this one. Nearly a third of the weddings I’m playing this Spring and Summer have the Mendelssohn Wedding March programmed for the recessional.
3.) A Thousand Years
This song has been popular for over a decade! My quartet and I joke that it’s the “New Canon in D” because it seems like every other couple picks it for their wedding ceremony. It’s a beautiful choice, and it’s easy for us because it cadences every few bars, making it ideal for ending early if the wedding party is quick to process down the aisle.
2.) Canon in D
This one will never go out of style! It’s a favorite of many, and I think most people think of weddings or graduations when they hear it. We even recorded this for my parents’ anniversary CD.
1.) The Shire Theme (Concerning Hobbits)
This has been very surprising for me, but literally half of the couples we are playing for this spring have requested this for either their processional or recessional. Which is fine by our cellist – an avid LOTR fan!
As a private studio teacher, you may have struggled with your personal philosophy behind practice incentives. We want to be careful to encourage intrinsic motivation in a student rather than squashing it with extrinsic motivators. Students should practice because it makes them better, and they’ll be able to play more music when they’re better at their instrument.
That’s all well and good for the self-motivated pre-teen student, who has already learned that hard work will result in a new skill. However, if you are a Suzuki teacher like I am, you probably have more than a couple students under the age of 6 who have not had a chance to learn this. When the Suzuki Method was first gaining international recognition in the 1960’s, it was at a time when there was generally a parent who was home every day to help the child practice, usually the mom. It was also a time before video games, smart phones, and tablets were commonly found in households across the nation. Now, it’s more common to find families that have both parents in the workforce, and we have daily competition from screens for our students’ attention. For these families with students who have not yet developed their intrinsic motivation to practice, we need a way to encourage students to practice that doesn’t rest solely on a parent’s ability to have the mental bandwidth to encourage, beg, and sometimes argue with their child to practice each day. That’s why, in my opinion, a little external motivation doesn’t hurt the student.
Introducing: Practice incentives! AKA prizes, rewards, bribes, etc…
If you’re a new teacher, or just a teacher new to giving prizes for practicing, I have two tips from my previous experience.
Keep it Simple: I’ve had elaborate challenges that seemed like a great idea in my head, but were actually really hard to explain once I was in a lesson. This is not helpful in motivating a student, especially a little one who is just barely grasping why we need to practice in the first place.
Keep it Consistent: If you introduce a practice incentive of some sort, everyone needs to be held to the same standard. I made the mistake of thinking that as a private lessons teacher, my students wouldn’t have the opportunity to compare their progress with one another. This is simply not the case when you are serving a local community – some of them are bound to have friends within the studio, know each other from school, or if your studio is like mine, you’ll probably have a lot of siblings who are both taking lessons.
And now without further ado, here are some ideas for practice incentives you can implement into your own studio!
Practice/Listening Challenges
I’ve done practice challenges periodically ever since branching out and doing lessons out of my own studio. I’ve tried a variety of things in the past, and I found that having two challenges a school year is plenty.
Practice Minute Challenge
This challenge is really basic. Students record their practice minutes and win prizes as they meet designated goals. There are lots of different personal twists you can add to these challenges, but what I do, is designate the month of October each year as my “Practice Challenge Month”. I have four tiers of prizes that students can win depending on how much they practice. I calculate this based on how much time I recommend each student practices each week. So for example, for a Book 1 student, I recommend that they practice for at least 30 minutes 5 days a week. They win their first prize at 150 minutes, the next at 300, the third at 450, and the final prize at 600 minutes. If the student practices the amount I recommend, then each week, they go home with a prize. If they don’t, they’ll only win two or three prizes that month.
Lets face it, we all have some students who will only earn one prize in the month, and it’s our job to love them just the same as our other students. This challenge helps them get a prize, too!
I get my prizes either at the dollar store, or you can order little arcade prizes from Amazon. I’ve also gotten prizes at a real arcade to pass on to my students – I love going to Dave and Busters, but I don’t need any of the prizes you get for the amount of tickets I win.
Quick tip: I used to lay out my prizes on a bookshelf in my studio so that they could see what they were practicing for. That was far too distracting during the lesson, so now all of my prizes are in a box that they only get to see if they win a prize.
I add an extra incentive by awarding the student who practiced the most out of their group a $5 gift card to Meijer.
Listening Challenge
I’ll admit that I haven’t found a perfect challenge for this yet. As a Suzuki teacher, my job is to encourage families to listen to the music they are going to learn. The student simply will not learn effectively (meaning they will learn to play with mistakes, or take several months to learn each piece) without daily listening, especially in Book 1. And yet, a lot of my families just don’t do it, or only do it once a week on the way to lessons.
For two years in a row, I have done a “November/December Listening Challenge”. My idea is that during the holidays, even if you can’t get to the violin every day, at least you can do your listening. The first year I did this, I encouraged students to listen for 2/3 of the days remaining in the calendar year (which is still lower than what I tell families they need to do), and if everyone did at least that, they would all win a pizza party. My students did not win a pizza party that year.
The following year, I promised everyone a cool notebook to start out the new year if the studio could do 2/3 of their listening in November and December. Remember when I said earlier that it was important to be consistent? I broke that rule for this challenge. My studio did not meet the 2/3 goal and I found myself needing to reward the students who had, for the second year in a row, diligently done their listening every day to try to bring up the studio’s average. Students who did their listening every day did receive a special, music themed notebook that I got on Amazon to celebrate their listening achievement.
The studio-wide challenges have been a swing and a miss for me, so next year, I’ll be making my listening challenge a personal challenge for each student. I am very interested in ideas from Suzuki teachers for encouraging listening that do not include dismissing students from my studio!
Practice Bingo
This was a super fun challenge for me to do in 2023, and my plan is to alternate this each year with my practice minutes challenge each October. Each “Bingo” results in a prize out of my prize box.
Milestone Awards
These rewards are a little easier to keep up throughout the year if you keep the materials on hand. These can be given for graduating pieces in a method book, completing a method book, attending a certain number of lessons, or completing a first recital.
Colorful Ribbons. Margaret Hawley-Lowry, who teaches in Zeeland, suggests awarding students who pass a challenge piece in their method book with a colorful ribbon to put on their violin case. At the end of the year, students can see how colorful their cases have become!
Peg Gremlins.My students at Jenison Public schools have come to lessons with finger monsters on their tuning pegs. This one deserves a picture:
Certificates. Never underestimate the power of a professional looking certificate that students can hang on their fridge at home!
Candy.This one is pretty classic, but be sure to have options for students with allergies. When I was a student at Blue Lake, my orchestra teacher in the summer before 7th grade would give candy to one student at each rehearsal as a “Posture Award”.
Cupcake Graduation. I teach my students to hold their bows with their thumb outside of the frog. After they’ve learned all of the Twinkle Variations, Lightly Row, Song of the Wind, and Go Tell Aunt Rhody, they perform all four of them consecutively for me at a lesson. After they perform the folk songs from Book 1, my students graduate from their practice bow hold to moving their thumb inside the frog, and they also earn a cupcake! I adapted this idea from my piano teacher’s (Susan Crosser) Cupcake Graduation, celebrating the first few pieces in the piano Book 1.
New Strings. This is not something I provide for students, but I encourage the parents of my students to reward their student with a new set of strings when they graduate Book 1.
100 Lesson Club. I write notes for each of my students so I can remember what they’re working on, and sometime a few years ago I decided that while I’m writing the notes, I might as well write a number each lesson. Students who have attending 100 lessons receive a certificate and are part of my “100 Lesson Club”. Members of my 100 Lesson Club are recognized each year in the spring recital program.
My Pre-Twinkle students are often still learning what behavior is appropriate for lessons. After seeing several families using a point-system to reward good behavior with their littles, I decided to make up my own system.
Pre-Twinkle students are able to earn up to 3 Cookie Points per lesson. One for participating in the lesson (no stalling), one for following my directions without complaining, and one for following my house rules (no yelling, no hitting, etc.). After students earn a total of 15 points, they win 3 cookies. I have a couple of girl scouts in my studio, so I buy a ton of girl scout cookies and freeze them to give away as rewards. I also like to bake so when those are out, I make chocolate chip cookies, or my mom and I love decorating seasonal sugar cookies. Remember to have a gluten free and dairy free option if necessary.
What types of prizes do you give to your students? I would love to hear your ideas in the comments!
We started our Fall Semester on September 3rd, and this school year is already off to a busy start! Each student got to start off the semester with a sweet treat, made by my mother (and I helped)!
We have some exciting things planned for this month, including a trip on the 28th to the Grand Rapids Symphony where students will be able to participate in a “Play-In” in the lobby before the concert. This concert is especially fitting for my students to see as it’s titled “For the Love of Violin”!
Each of my students is also starting out the Fall Semester with one month of reviewing their old songs. Once everyone is done with their review songs, then each student gets to pick a prize out of my prize box! A key component of the Suzuki method is reviewing a unified repertoire and playing with others, and we are able to do that in group lessons and with lesson overlaps!
I’m looking forward to all of the opportunities this semester has in store for us!
I was so thrilled for my students to have an opportunity to play music outside of the Suzuki repertoire and to do so in such a casual setting. Before now, my students had only had recitals to perform at. My goal for the next school year is to increase the number of fun performance opportunities for my students so they aren’t all high-pressure situations like a recital.
Dr. B and I played duets for about an hour, and then we had our students play 6 group songs: Twinkle Variation A, Carnival in Rio and Bow River Fiddling from Magic Carpet Violin, Cabbages and Swallowtail Jig from Wee Violin, and Old MacDonald.
We are so thankful to the Ada Village Farmers Market for hosting us and can’t wait to go back next year!
Last month, we enjoyed lovely performances from nearly every one of my students. I am so humbled by the growth my studio has shown in the past three years. At my first recital, I had 13 kids perform. I had nearly 30 perform this time!
Since we have grown so much, we had to find a new venue for our recital this year. Thank you very much to St. John’s United Church of Christ for hosting us!
We had solos, duets, a trio, and even a quartet! I am so proud of the hard work everyone put into their performances. We were accompanied once again by the skilled Noah Seim and I even tried my hand at accompanying as well! Grand Rapids area teachers should consider hiring Noah for their recitals – he is fantastic at accompanying young students.
At every recital, my students start with the first variation of Twinkle. Everyone gets to play as a group regardless of how young or old they are. One of my students’ parents got a great picture of us playing twinkle, but there were so many of us that not everyone is pictured!
This year I started including Pre-Twinklers in performances. At the start of the show, we sang the Rest Position Song and “played” Pop Goes the Weasel. Later in the program, all of my Pre-Twinklers played an open string duet with me from the books Wee Violin and Magic Carpet Violin.
Towards the end of the program, my more advanced students played some ensemble music.
And now with the recital behind us, we are well into the summer. I’m enjoying slower days and sunny weather, while also looking forward to getting back into the swing of things next year!
What a year it’s been! I’m so thankful for all of the opportunities I’ve had this past year and it makes me feel very fortunate to look back on what I’ve been able to do. When we are caught up in the grind and just getting by day to day, it can be hard to remember how much we have accomplished. I encourage everyone to do a yearly reflection and give yourself some credit for your hard work too!
Below are just 5 (of many!!) highlights from this past year.
I performed at 26 wedding ceremonies.
I originally started the year with a limit of 24 weddings. After the whirlwind that was 2021, I felt that I needed to limit the amount of weddings I was doing for my own sanity and for the quality of my performances. I ended up adding on 2 more, but am proud of myself for sticking so close to the original number I gave myself! A lot of planning goes into each wedding, so limiting them ensures that I am consistently providing my best work.
I started the year with 15 students and ended it with 27.
This is especially crazy, because my goal was 20! I am finally at a point where I don’t need to rely on gigs to supplement my teaching income. The constant plugging myself and posting on wedding sites appear to be in my rearview mirror- and hopefully I can keep it that way!
I recorded an album!
Albeit small (only about 30 minutes of music), my string quartet worked very hard and hired a sound engineer (Chris Avison at McBride Studio) to record music for my parents’ 30th wedding anniversary. They have exclusive access to the full album, but you can listen to clips on my About Page.
I Completed Book 2 Training.
It seems so long ago that it wasn’t even part of this year, but in February of this year I completed my Book 2 training with Jenna Potts. It was a very thorough class and I learned so much about teaching and Dr. Suzuki’s philosophy. I’m really looking forward to continuing my education in the Suzuki Program!
I held my first studio recital!
Words cannot express just how much pride I felt when I watched my students, aged 5-adult perform songs that they had worked so hard to prepare. My heart was bursting to see even my most nervous students perform so well. Each student put in so much work and the reward was a beautiful performance.
I’m looking forward to using these experiences to help me grow in 2023!
The Boho-Chic style is known for its earthy tones, natural textures, eclectic combinations, and a Beauty-in-the-Natural-Chaos vibe. If I could use three words to describe this style, I’d take them right from the Beatles: “Let it Be”. With a style so easily detectable to the eye, you wouldn’t think it’d be so tough to nail down what the specific “sound” this style would have, but it’s actually pretty broad! When I sat down and really thought about it and started reading about this style and how it could relate to music, I found that I was drawn to songs with more of a walking-tempo, a simple melody, and an acoustic-feel rather than electronic or pop. The 5 songs I have listed below are what I think would be a lovely addition to your Boho-Chic wedding, all of which are on my repertoire list!
Love Someone – Lukas Graham
Perfect for some prelude music before the ceremony!
Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
This would be a great song for parents, grandparents, and the wedding party to Process to.
Speechless – Dan + Say
I have done this for Bridal Processions and I think it’s just the perfect song for it!
Better Together – Jack Johnson
This classic would be the perfect song to recess to.
I had my first ever student recital. We started the event off with a group rendition of Twinkle Variation A, then 13 of my students gave beautiful performances. All of them played so well, and it’s so impressive to think that about half of them couldn’t even play the violin this time last year!
My grandma played the piano for 13 of the 14 who performed (one played solo). She also was great! I am so thankful to her for sharing her skill with us and helping make the day special. She committed lots of time to rehearsing, as each of my students got to rehearse with her in a lesson, at a dress rehearsal, and at my June group lesson.
Thank you also to Davin with Sound Check at Lowell United Methodist Church for allowing us to use this space. It was the perfect size for us!!
Buddy & Bean Flower Farm put together a beautiful arrangement to honor my grandma, and I really recommend her work !
I can’t forget my mom, who made cookies and fruit kebabs for everyone!!
And lastly thank you to my students and their families!!! I am so proud of everyone who performed and I am so happy with how far you all have come. Happy Summer!!
Traditional Weddings are classy, elegant, and a lot of couples’ dreams come true! I’ve done lists of unconventional music before, but here is a list of my favorite elegant, traditional music for a classic wedding.
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring, by JS Bach
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring is great, because it can be used for prelude music, processional music, recessional music, or even for a unity candle! This timeless melody flows effortlessly and is perfect for weddings because there are multiple places to stop without feeling abrupt. That means your quartet can cadence and end a song gracefully, regardless of when your party is finished processing down the aisle or whenever you’re done lighting your unity candle!
Wachet Auf, by JS Bach
Another classic, this piece has another versatile melody that will flow well wherever you place it! Its tempo is perfect for a relaxed march down the aisle, and the melody is simple enough to set the mood for a unity candle without distracting from what’s going on. Perfect for classy wedding ceremonies!
Trumpet Voluntary, by Jeremiah Clarke
No trumpet needed to play this iconic wedding piece! This march was composed for royalty, and who doesn’t want to feel like a prince or princess on their special day? This is a great processional piece that will have your wedding guests feeling like they’re attending a royal wedding.
Solomon: Entrance of the Queen of Sheba, by George Frideric Handel
This fun, upbeat piece is great for a recessional! Handel wrote this piece as part of his oratorio, Solomon. The Queen of Sheba had taken a long journey to arrive at Solomon’s Court. Triumphant and Joyous, this piece is the perfect song to signify that you, too, have arrived at the end of your long journey of engagement and will leave the ceremony newly married.
Canon in D Major, by Johann Pachelbel
I’d be crazy to leave this off the list! Pachelbel’s one hit wonder, Canon in D, has survived centuries because of its soothing, beautiful melody. This is truly the staple of a traditional wedding ceremony, and it will fit wherever you place it. Like Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring, this is a great piece for processionals or unity candle lighting because there are many places where your quartet can cadence and end gracefully when music is no longer needed.
Jenna Michael, violin, Krista Archambault, violin, Jamie Listh, viola, Kevin Sweers, cello
What are your favorite wedding songs? Let me know in the comments below!
New Year’s Day and the first few weeks of January are always great times to check in, reflect, and set new goals. I’ve found that I grew more from the teachers who set clear goals for me than the ones who played things more by ear, and I strive each year to be a better teacher for my students! So, in addition to more personalized goals for each individual student, here are three goals I would like to see allof my students reach this year.
Practice and Listen More Often.
When you teach 3-12 year olds, it can be hard to find a good practice/listening and life balance. Even harder when you personally have struggled with debilitating burnout in the past. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve gotten a bit lax with my practice requirements and I haven’t always been persistent in having my students listen to their music each week. I struggle a lot with seeing where the line is between encouraging a love of music by keeping lessons fun and doing a disservice to my students by not encouraging them to meet their full potential. I also think that telling each student to practice every day is not realistic, and it’s kind of a cop-out. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could practice every day, work out every day, work on our jobs and our side hustles every day (or go to school!), and never experience an ounce of stress, burnout, or injury!
Practicing every day will surely help you improve faster than the students who don’t. I’m sure Ray Chen, Hillary Hahn, and other famous violinists do, in fact, practice nearly every day. I had many college professors who insisted we practice every day. But, I’ll let you in on a secret: I’ve never met an adult musician who has spent their life practicing each and every day at the expense of sleep, rest, and sometimes their health, who is also consistently happy, has appropriate social skills, and doesn’t hold an unhealthy resentment towards those who don’t fit their idea of what it means to “work hard”. So, even though I realize I’m in the minority when I say this, I don’t think my students should practice every day. Instead, what I tell them is that they should practice most days. I think you should take a look at a student’s work load and work together towards practice goals that make sense for each individual student.
That said, my strong feelings against the side hustle and burnout culture have made it very hard for me to understand where I need to draw a line. I think it’s possible to acknowledge and encourage my students not to overdo it and also set firm boundaries on how much they should be practicing and listening to their music. This is also an expectation that needs to be stated clearly with the parents. Kids are just that: kids. They need reminders. It’s my job to make sure the parent knows what is expected of both them and their children. My goal for them is to establish a workable practice and listening routine so that my students are practicing more.
Explore New Music.
I love the Suzuki books. They’re set up in a way that makes sense to me and I believe that as you continue through each book, the skills you learn from each song build on each other. But they’re not diverse. I think most, if not all, of these songs were not even written in the same century that our students are growing up in. Classical music is great, but it’s far from the only thing out there and it would be silly to think that all of my students go home and blast Tchaik 5 or the New World Symphony. I want them to listen to music that is being made today, whether that is from contemporary violinists, jazz musicians, or pop artists. Being able to listen to music and not do anything else, just listen and enjoy it, is totally underrated and personally, I think it’s healing and a very healthy thing for us all to do. My goal is to help them eventually take self-guided explorations with new music without me encouraging it. But for now I can send home some fun assignments! 😉
Have More Confidence
This is something I ALWAYS have on my list of goals for my students. Life has a way of getting you down, and social media can make it easy to compare ourselves to others who seemingly have it together more than we do. If my students only do one thing in 2022, I hope that they become more comfortable with their instrument, are proud of themselves for doing so, and in turn, have the confidence to keep playing.